Mental Illness in Japan Part 4: Sick Classmates

Warning: Triggering

She rolled up her sleeves and showed me the slashes there. Not just a couple of slashes either, but red slashes, cut over and over each other. I froze for a fraction of a section to collect myself. I felt shocked. A classmate who I loved and cared about was in pain.
I can't go into more detail because I don't want to expose this lovely girl's identity. 


Another classmate in Japan would frequently break down into tears. Her Grandma had died and due to the difficult economic situation  her best friend had to move to Hokkaido. She often looked tired. She would play with her food and plough through it wearily. She was in this state for a couple of months. Now, that I look back, I think she may have been depressed.

Yet another classmate had anorexia nevosa and anorexia. Her cheeks had concaved and the skin hung from her arms and legs in folds. She could not jump. Her classmates would loudly proclaim about how delicious their food was - a passive way of trying to encourage her to eat. But, I didn't see anyone actively go up to her and encourage her to eat. Her condition was the saddest I'd ever seen both on and offline - because her physical condition was the sickest I'd ever seen (and I have been inside an intensive care ward) and because she was such a beautiful, kind person on the inside.

There were no Qualified Counsellors available at the two highschools I went to on long term exchange.

TO BE CONTINUED...

Mental Illness in Japan Part 3: Suicide

Warning: This may be a trigger!

The cherry blossom is not only a pretty flower but it is also a symbolic flower within Japanese history. For those who aren't aware, cherry blossom trees only flower for a short period of time each year. But, when they do blossom the look is awesomely beautiful. The cherry blossom trees tend to blossom at once and are covered in cherry blossoms like a stick covered in fairy floss (candy cane). The cherry blossoms then fall to the ground with gusts of wind...like samurais.

Why are they like samurais?
●The Samurai lifespan also didn't tend to be very long. Many died in battle or committed suicide if they lost the battle (harakiri/seppaku). There were mass numbers of samurais dying just as mass numbers of cherry blossoms fall after they bloom.
●When the Samurais committed Harakiri they would slit open their bellies, exposing the contents inside.  It was partly a way of showing, hey look, I'm a human being ~ on the inside I'm the same.
*That was a very vague description and thus could be misleading. There could be a lot more discussion about this topic.*

Not cherry blossoms but similar looking. 

But, what I learnt from Japanese history is that within Samurai history, suicide was not stigmatized as much as within UK Christian history. In fact, suicide may instead be seen as a kind of remorse, honour or redemption by some in Japan. But, within UK history, suicide was often  seen as a form of murder by a number of Christian followers. Having been influenced by Christian morals, I find it challenging to accept suicide as a positive thing.

I don't think that within modern Japan, suicide is seen as such a positive thing. But, I think that little aspects of history have some influence till this day. Two or three times my train was late in Japan because someone had committed suicide on the tracks and they needed to be cleaned off.  I was told that the train stations charge the family with the clean up job in order to try and deter Salary men from jumping.

TO BE CONTINUED...

Mental Illness and Stigma in Japan Part 2

THIS  study (which was published on the website of the National Centre for Biotechnology Information, U.S. National Library of Medicine) predicts that 46.4% of people will experience mental illness in their lifetime in the USA.
I think these findings have serious implications for Japan, given that the suicide rate in Japan for every 100, 000 people is higher then the suicide rate in the USA, according to the WHO website. If almost 50% of USA citizens will experience a mental illness, then how many people in Japan will experience one?
This is something that I wonder about.
I think there are also some serious implications for the rest of the world, keeping in mind that there are many countries which have a much higher suicide rate then in Japan.

My first exposure to Mental Illness and suicide in Japan happened at a highschool in Ibaraki  on a short term exchange (yes, technically, I have been to three Japanese highschools in total). When I was shown around at the highschool in Ibaraki, the Vice Principal pointed to train tracks outside of the school grounds and said very seriously, "There is a popular suicide spot!"
I felt sad but impressed that the Vice Principal was so open about a very serious issue like suicide. I thought that this showed some respect and awareness about the issue.

TO BE CONTINUED...

Through One Ear and Out the Other

"It went through one ear and the other," I said flippantly.
My Chinese Language Partner stared at me with surprise. "What does that mean?" He wondered.
"Oh." I wondered if this was a new expression or phrase for him. "If someone isn't listening properly or paying attention, then what you said to them has gone through one ear and out the other...I guess because their mind isn't present and so there's an empty space in between their ears..."
My language partner nodded enthusiastically. "It's the same as in China."
"Ehh, really?!" What a surprise!
The word 'walk' doesn't exist in all languages, but a strange expression like 'Through one ear and out the other' does. What a funny world we live in...

Later, when I went on a date with my potential boyfriend, we discussed it over two steaming cups of delicious butterscotch hot chocolate, and he said that the same expression exists in Arabic too. He is a citizen of a country in Africa and the Middle East called Libya.

It amazes me that an expression like this can exist in three different languages and in three different areas of the world.

Gender Roles vs Individualism: Japanese Husbands

 

"The husband will feel ashamed if his wife has to work; people will look down upon him."

 

This isn't the exact wording, but the general gist of a conversation I had with a Japanese husband and wife (some of my host parents). I was curious as to why all of my female host parents had written on my forms that they were house wives; whilst, all (except one) of them had some other kind of job also. For example, they had jobs as Dance Instructors or as Office Reception Staff.

 

"Do you help with the house chores?" I asked  the husband, curiously.

"Oh no," his wife interrupted, happily, folding the washing. "In Japan, that is the wife's duty."

 

The next morning the husband was complaining about how his wife leaves him to do all of the housework. "Shougenai ne". He then proceeded to prepare breakfast, hang out the washing and do the dishes.

 

Some things are the same no matter where you live in the world!

Australia; Japan: Asian or Western Countries?

In Australia students are taught in school that Japan is an Asian country. But, I have seen newspaper articles in Japan debating whether Japan is an Asian or Western country. I've seen similar articles debating whether Australia is an Asian or Western country in Japan.

This year, the Opposition Leader of an Australian political party came up with a plan to make Australia the food bowl of Asia if he is elected. There has been some academic talk about whether Australia is an Asian or Western country. I think if you asked most Australian people, they would say that Australia is a Western country. But, the first time I heard of the debates about whether Australia is an Asian or Western country, I was a little confused because I had an image of an older Western USA, with cowboys in mind when I thought of the word "western". There are not many cowboys in Australia.

Yesterday, I was hanging out with a friend who has heritage ties with Azerbaijan, Iran and Turkey. He asked me if I'd ever eaten Asian food before.
"I just told you that I'd lived in Japan," I laughed.
He thought seriously for a moment. "I thought that Japan was a Western country," he said.
My Chinese Tutor is also under the impression that Japan is more of a Western country than an Asian country.

Is Australia or Japan an Asian or Western country ~ what do you think?

War Australia and Japan

War isn't something that I am particularly fond of because I feel that there is great sadness in war.
So, when a work colleague invited me to a World War II tour I was a little reluctant to go. However, this was an important project for her as she was writing an article for a Japanese newspaper and so I wanted to support her. I also wanted to know how to be supportive for those who survived the war and later developed Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

An Australian soldier who survived 'the Bombing of Darwin' came with the tour group as well as a Japanese civilian who had survived the air raids in Japan as a child. It was interesting listening to their stories and to see no resentment or animosity between the two fellows. Our host was enthusiastic about piecing together an honest account of what had happened during World War II from the perspectives of Australian and Japanese people of that time. I found the tour forgiving, warm and honest. I recommend it!

 

I've also been to the Hiroshima Museum and the Hiroshima Peace Park before. Unfortunately, I couldn't find a digital picture of that for the moment. But, I was impressed about how the plight of other countries was acknowledged in the museum and I felt moved by the stories of hardship that many people had to endure as the result of the atomic bomb, particularly the stories of wounded children. :(

 

In War movies there is often a "good guy" and "the enemy". This is not the impression that I got from my World War II tours. Of course, I was not alive during World War II, so my views may be a little ignorant or naïve. I found that all of the people I met and learnt about seemed to be warm hearted, kind and forgiving human beings.